Surrender and Permit Yourself to Take a Break From Trying to Conceive

podcast Jul 15, 2022

“When you take control and start doing the things that are right for you and start healing and growing, that’s when you start progressing and getting to your ultimate goal.”

Topics Discussed:

🦩 Practice surrendering and let go of control.

🦩 Take charge of your healing and start doing what’s right for you.  

If you’re still holding on to things that will not give you your desired results, maybe it’s time to surrender.

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In this episode of the Finding Fertility podcast, we talk about how I’ve decided to practice surrender in my work, plus how you can do it to start seeing results. I also explain the importance of having a sperm test for your husband to determine their health.

Listen in to learn how surrendering allows you to heal, grow, and start making progress towards your dream family.

  • “It’s ridiculous to look at a woman having fertility issues and not at least do a generic sperm test on the husband.”

Episode Highlights:

  • [5:50] Surrender all this unyielding cycle and focus on things that will give you results.
  • [9:00] The importance of having a sperm test when experiencing recurring miscarriages.
  • [11:40] Practice surrendering and realize that you have the control to heal and do what’s right for you.
  • [16:35] Stop holding on too strong and be open to receiving the family of your dreams.

Listen here: Surrender and Permit Yourself to Take a Break From Trying to Conceive

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Full Transcript: 

Hello beautiful and welcome to finding fertility. I'm your host, Monica Cox from finding And I created this podcast to help get you to start thinking outside of the box and realise that your infertility might have nothing to do with your lady bits rooted in functional medicine and personal experience. Finding fertility is all about looking at the whole body and finding the root cause of your infertility. Finding fertility does not diagnose, prescribe or treat any issues of infertility. But what we do is take a holistic approach and improve your diet and your lifestyle to get you steps closer to creating your dream family. Just by being here with me listening to this podcast, you're already going down the right path to making your dreams come true.

Let's do this together. Happy Friday. Oh, welcome back to another episode of finding fertility. I am so grateful that you are here I am so proud of you for stepping outside of the box and really trying to become your own hero because that's what this journey is all about. No one wants this more than you like fact. So today's kind of a big day for me, I'm going to be honest with the date today is April 25. And this month has been a really big one for me. Because I have surrendered and starting with a new moon in April. Just let go of a bunch of BS that's been really hard for me to let go of. And I struggled letting go of these things during my infertility journey.

And I must say I thought that they were things I wouldn't bring back into my life because well, I got rid of them for quite a few years, and had had my babies and we're just on this like, blissful, joyful ride. And I guess, to sound cliche, the honeymoon period is over and when life just becomes super stressful. Like it has for everyone. Thanks, COVID. Um, yeah, I just had a start getting real with myself. And I have a very special client that I'm actually kind of recording this podcast episode for. And it really ties in on what I wanted to speak to you guys about today. About, like surrender. And so I'm surrendering, I have a lot of cool things that I want to do in the next few months. And I need to make space and time for them, like upgrading the course, expanding my knowledge on blood sugar levels.

And really just working more in depth with my one to one clients, and even my group coaching programme, really putting more focus, not more focus, but just having the time to put more time into those things that are really, really important to me. And so I'm surrendering and hiring out a few things in my company that I really don't need to do, and giving myself permission to surrender, and know that this podcast has been such a value source for so many people. And that that episodes are forever going to live on. And it's okay for me not to show up every single week. So I have scheduled out the next three months with some of my favourite episodes. They're already scheduled. So if you're new to this podcast, you're never gonna, you would have not been able to download them.

And my hope is that people who have already downloaded them, they're about two years old, that you're not listening anymore, that you are successful in your journey, and that you have found peace in and you're not struggling anymore. And that the things that you know you needed to do to improve your situation that you have done them. And so I'm surrendering and this is your sign to surrender yourself surrender this whole process that you feel like you have no control over so you are just stuck to this two week. Bullshit cycle of ovulation and periods and all physicians in periods.

I know how all consuming that can be. And then it encroaches in every aspect of your life, your perfect meal planning your perfect supplement regime, your perfect meditation and your yoga. I mean, I know I have a one to one client right now who part of her instructions for me, part of her action plan was to get rid of her fucking to do this. Like, it was insane. And a lot of it was stuff for fertility. But I was like, You're literally stressing yourself out to have this like to do list. And I feel like you're just come to me, because you're looking for more things to put on your to do list, but I'm gonna be the bearer of bad news, I'm going to be your honest best friend and say, no more stop. Let's really hone in and focus on the things that are truly gonna get to your ultimate goal.

Because right now sitting down and visualising and meditating, is not going to get you there, because you're not addressing the root cause of your anxiety. Sorry, that was like a massive tangent. But so I want you to be able to surrender. Getting back to the client that I have in the group coaching. There's a lot of heartache right now, because in our discussions, and this is where the magic happens, right? Like if you're able to have a discussion about your journey with someone who is knowledgeable about all aspects of health and what you go through this journey for men and for women. Things that you might have not thought of, or things that you have been told aren't the issue can be revisited with new eyes. And so you know, she was advised not to do some testing, especially her husband.

And through our conversation. I was like you need to test your husband. This this just has to happen. You need to figure out he's never had a sperm test and you're having reoccurring miscarriages and even though he's healthy, he's maybe doing things that he shouldn't be doing and it could be compromising sperm health. Anyways, long story short, they got the at home testing that I recommend. And yeah, like shitty sperm. Like not probably not awful, but like shitty enough to show up on a test. And if you haven't already and your husband is dealing with sperm issues or you're dealing with reoccurring miscarriages, I want you to go back and listen to part one of myself and Dr. A talking about missing links and reincarnate miscarriages. Because I tell you why the conversation, I knew what we were going to talk about. And when she started going off on the male.

I was like God smacked like her research is amazing and what she was finding, so I highly recommend you go back and listen to that episode. But yeah, like she's pissed, she's pissed that, you know, the guidance that she got was wrong. Like, just, you know, like, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it, it was fucking wrong. And I know how that feels. And I know that these experts are doing the best that they can. And, and they're, you know, working off the, you know, their knowledge, I get it, and I'm not trying to slam anyone.

But it is ridiculous to look at a woman who has having fertility issues and not at least do a generic sperm test on the husband. And that, you know, we just, I mean, that's not even thinking outside of the box, right? Like I can relate to this so much because, I mean, whether you know it or not, I went to a specific fertility clinic to get tested for autoimmune issues. And because I wasn't having reoccurring miscarriages like I wasn't getting pregnant at all, like not even chemical pregnancies like nada, right? And this is like yours.

The consulting fertility specialist was like, No, don't do that testing. You're not a candidate for it, don't waste your money, you just do another round of IVF. And I didn't follow my intuition. And I didn't do the testing and went through a full blown IVF got a really good embryo and didn't even make it stay 28 And after that, we did the testing and lo and behold, there was our fucking answer to all of our issues that I had. Do not like high natural killer cells. So I get the frustration because, you know, we go through so much. And sometimes it isn't an easy answer, but sometimes it fucking is, right? Sometimes it is, and it gets just missed, then we get really, really frustrated with the process. And this is like another good reason to practice surrendering.

Right? Like surrendering to it all and just going, okay. Yeah, it does suck that I just wasted. The late, you know, like doing that whole IVF like it pushed, you know, it was like three months, like minimum right of getting prepped up to the IVF doing the IVF not getting pregnant, taking the time for all the fucking chemicals to leave my body. And then the mental and emotional, like, I really was in a dark place thinking, Well, I've done everything right. Like this is after a year of being on a paleo diet and like doing all the right things.

And I was just like, super convinced at the time that my body couldn't do it. Like, and it wasn't until I got that testing that I was like, Okay, right, there's something else to tackle. Let's go and gotten neck deep into auto immune, but learning how to surrender and learning to go, okay. I didn't know that. But now I do. And what can I do with this information? And how can I take this information and apply it and start taking more of the right steps to get to my ultimate goal? It's really hard to do.

And that's why you have to start practising the surrenders before the big ones come up. Right? Like, all this meditation, all this relaxation. Yeah, it's great for the day to day, it's definitely helping lowering your cortisol is helping, like not overthinking all those things. But where the magic actually lies is when you get confronted with these big situations. And you're just able to handle them with a little bit more grace. So instead of like going into, like the default mode of getting, like super triggered super pissed off, you're there, you're like pumping out the cortisol now, like you're angry, you're in fear. And that could last like a week or two weeks.

And that's not doing anything for your fertility health, right. Like it's pushing you back more. And so if you're able to, okay, yeah, be pissed off for like the day or take two days, right? But don't let it last. And if you're able to, you know, surrender and let go of control and like, Okay, this was out of my control, I was doing the best that I can. And look, I'm super grateful that I decided to listen to this podcast, read this part, you know, this, this blog post, join the formula, get some one on one coaching, you know, speak to a practitioner that is thinking outside of the box and opening up the horizon. Thank God that I'm here. Thank you universe for allowing this to happen.

And I'm going to move through this situation very quickly. So I think it's really, really important to just remind ourselves that sometimes we are just going through society, how society wants us to pretty, pretty sleepy. Right? And when you're kind of waking up, and I know, that's like an overused term now, but I would say for the large majority of people even willing to listen to this podcast, you know, follow me on my social media, even especially if you're coming in to be part of the community. You are open, you are ready to receive these messages. And it's,

it's, it's amazing, and I hope that when your time is when you're ready, those aha moments, those light bulbs, those, like for me, it's like, you're done with your own BS, right? You you realise that, okay, you didn't cause your infertility, you didn't cause these things to happen. There was a whole cascade of, you know, things going on around you, but now, now you have the knowledge that okay, I have control over all of this BS.

And when I take control and start doing the things and are right for me, and start healing and growing. That's when you start really making the progress and getting to your ultimate goal. So that's me on my tangent again. But yeah, I am surrendering. It's really, really hard. Like I, I feel the tension in my body that I'm saying this out loud. And if you're part of the email list, there's some emails that you're kind of like, why is she telling me this, and when I say something out loud, that is my contract. And I am making it with everyone who's read that email, or is now listening to this, that I'm going to stick to what I what I'm going to say.

And so for me to say I am going to and I already have loaded up two episodes per week of amazing content that I have produced over the last three years for you to listen to. And like I said, if you're just listening to this podcast now, you this isn't stuff you've never heard before. And I really hope that if you most of my listeners that were here a year ago aren't here, I hope that you are a you know, have reached your ultimate goal, whatever that has looked like if that shifted, if that's still the family of your dreams, whatever that is, I hope that you're still not here. That's my mission. year max, right. And even if you're not pregnant, you have that knowledge of like taking it with you, right, because we all get that in our own time.

And so that is my surrender. And like I said, I this is your sign for you to surrender to whatever you feel like you're controlling, you're trying to control you're trying to make happen. And just surrender that to the universe. Because remember, when we're holding on to something really, really, really tight. It's probably not going to come to us, because we're so tense and we're not open to receiving. For those who follow me on social media, there's this woman talking about how a boner like works. And I didn't know this. And it's basically the man is in this blissful state of surrender. And so the blood flow, you know, I hear I'm thinking it's like, I don't know, some, like cartilage that goes hard, or something. But obviously, it's not a bone, there's no bone in there, right? And it's literally just so much blood flow just makes the penis erect and hard. And it's that surrender.

And I'm like, they, I mean, obviously, there's some, like other chemicals in there surely, because like, you know, it's not just just that, but um, but yeah. So you can still find me and connect with me, over on my social media platforms, obviously, the email and if you want really high vibe, interaction come into the community through the formula. And if you're looking for that personal touch the one on one coaching, you get on the waitlist, and yeah, let's make 2022 your year. I know when you listen to this, it's already going to be halfway done, which is fucking insane.

But you can make the last six remaining months, just those months that really changed everything and you can walk into 2023 Just vibing on life, and hopefully with a little one growing inside of you as well. Like that's, that's like the goal now right? To have a baby in 2023. And that's really exciting. And I just got the chills.

So it's gonna happen for a lot of people listening to this podcast. I am putting it out there in the universe right now. So that is it. I'm going to sign off I am not going to record purposefully a another podcast and tell awk Tober and we will be back live ish because I always pre record pretty early. But thank you so much for being here and allowing me to be a part of your journey in a small but significant way. A and I'm super excited for your future.

Thank you once again for tuning in to the finding fertility podcast. If you're loving this podcast please leave us a rating in review and let us know how this podcast is supporting you to get steps closer to creating your dream family. I hope you have a beautiful weekend and we will see you next Friday for another episode of the finding fertility podcast.

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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.


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