Breaking the Loop of Infertility & IVF Trauma and Stepping Into Radical Responsibility & Fertility Success
Information Without Embodiment Keeps You Stuck in Emotional Loops
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be.
Today’s episode goes straight to the heart of the fertility journey. It is for the woman who has the knowledge. The podcasts. The supplements. The protocols. The research spreadsheets. The symptoms logs. The IVF battle scars. And yet still finds herself sitting in the same emotional and energetic place.
If that is you, this is your wake up call.
Because information without embodiment keeps you stuck in the same emotional loops that quietly cancel out the physical work you are doing.
And I say that with love because that was me for years.
The Invisible Burnout No One Talks About
Most women on the TTC journey are walking around with three layers of exhaustion. IVF trauma that lives in the body even when the procedure is over. Emotional burnout from carrying the mental load of doing everything “right.” And a subconscious pattern of believing they are behind, broken, or failing.
Even when the physical body is doing its best, the nervous system is stuck in survival mode. The inner dialogue is stuck in fear loops. The emotions are stuck in old stories. And your cells can feel it.
Your physical body needs time to catch up with your mental reality. But it cannot do that when you are living in research mode instead of embodiment mode.
Knowledge Does Not Heal You. Embodiment Does.
You can know everything about hormones, gut health, embryo quality, trauma, epigenetics, and mitochondrial function. You might even know more than your doctor by now.
But here is the real question.
Are you living it
or are you just learning it?
Are you shifting the way you breathe when fear hits
or are you Googling another symptom?
Are you calming your nervous system
or are you spinning in what ifs?
Are you interrupting your victim story
or are you rehearsing it like a script?
This was my pattern for nearly a decade. I could recite my protocols. I could calculate my cycle charts in my sleep. I could articulate every root cause.
But I was not living differently.
I was thinking differently while behaving the same.
And my body could not shift until I shifted.
Epigenetics and Why Your Emotions Matter
When I first learned about epigenetics, it made everything click. This is not woo. This is not wishful thinking. This is biological truth.
Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors send signals to your cells. Over time those signals determine inflammation, hormonal balance, gut function, and long term health for both you and your future children.
This is why embodiment is not optional. It is the work.
Every time you choose trust over fear
every time you shift from control to surrender
every time you regulate your nervous system
you are literally rewriting your cellular environment.
The Comfort of the Victim Story
Here is the bold truth I share in this episode.
Your victim story might feel comforting
but it is keeping you stuck.
The narrative that everyone else has it easier.
The belief that you are doing everything right yet nothing is happening.
The fear that you will always be the exception.
These loops become emotional habits.
And emotional habits become your baseline frequency.
You cannot create a new reality from the frequency of the old one.
Yes, you can have pity parties. Yes, you can cry in the shower. Yes, you can rage in your car. Yes, you can feel jealous, frustrated, or hopeless.
But you cannot live there.
The moment you notice you are slipping back into the old emotional neighborhood, you have to ask yourself one thing.
What emotion is actually keeping me stuck
and am I willing to sort it?
Anger.
Fear.
Control.
Self judgment.
Comparison.
Hopelessness.
Sort the emotion. Process it. Move it.
Then remind yourself
We do not live in that story anymore.
Radical Responsibility Is the Turning Point
This journey shifts when you stop waiting for your circumstances to change and start shifting the energy inside you.
Radical responsibility is not self blame.
It is self liberation.
It is owning the fact that your choices, your patterns, and your emotional landscape are the only things you truly control. And they are powerful beyond belief.
When you consistently show up in a new way
your reality has no choice but to shift.
This is embodiment.
This is coherence.
This is the path to conception and beyond.
Who Is Truly Ready for a Breakthrough
Not everyone is ready for this level of honesty. Not everyone is ready to change the way they think, feel, act, and respond. Not everyone is ready to hear that the missing piece is not another protocol but their own frequency.
But if something in you is tired of your own loops
if you are craving a new way of being
if you are ready for a turning point
this episode will land with full body resonance.
I share the clip I wish I had at twenty seven. Thirty one. Thirty four. The clip that would have saved me years of emotional slumps and victim spirals.
It will trigger you.
That is exactly why you need it.
The Timeline Shifts When You Do
Thoughts.
Emotions.
Actions.
This is what shapes your reality.
This is what shifts your fertility timeline.
Your body is not broken.
It is waiting for you to become the version of yourself your future baby already knows.
If you are ready to collapse old patterns
step into radical responsibility
and live the embodiment your soul is craving press play and let this episode be your turning point.
Breaking the Loop of Infertility & IVF Trauma and Stepping Into Radical Responsibility & Fertility Success: https://theinfertilediagnosis.podbean.com/e/breaking-the-loop-of-infertility-ivf-trauma-and-stepping-into-radical-responsibility-fertility-success/?token=41f2245a165485be89f34246b7bd7b67
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Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.
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I'm Monica, your mentor in uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey. Together, we'll discover the right path for you within the six essential steps to creating the family of your dreams. We'll ditch the overwhelm, tune into your intuition, and build a vibrant foundation for your fertility. Whether it's through gut health, subconscious healing, or energetic alignment, you can unlock your body's natural power to get and stay pregnant.
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Your fertility journey is all about radical responsibility and deeply believing that your body is on your side. It's time to stay consistent, embrace trust, surrender, and create the transformation you deserve. Fighting fertility does not diagnose, prescribe, or treat any fertility issues. What we do is empower you to take control of your health by uncovering the root causes holding you back. Let's do this together. Happy Friday y'all!
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Welcome back to another episode of Fighting Fatility. I'm your host Monica Cox, and I am completely honored that you are here with me becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. Today, I want to talk about something most women on this journey avoid. And how do I know you're avoiding it? Because you're still listening to this podcast. You're still seeking knowledge. You're not sitting in the void, the mundane-ness, the silence.
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of this journey of life. But like I always say, fertility journey is hard work. I did this journey and am still doing this journey, this part of the journey in motherhood. Hard, still hard, but I am not longing for a child anymore, right? Yes, I have a slight advantage, but I promise you.
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I promise you, if you can show up for yourself to the best of your abilities and apply this stuff now, motherhood, the thing that you're so desperate for, will be amazing. Where I can be radically honest and say that everything that I thought motherhood was gonna be wasn't because I didn't sort this out before. I didn't know I needed to. So anyways, we're here doing it together.
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in different ways, but I know that you're avoiding this part of the journey because you know what? I'd still avoid some of this too. You have the knowledge. You already know more about fertility, hormones, diet, trauma, supplements than the average doctor. Let's just be honest, okay? Because if your doctors had the answers, you would have already gotten your solution and had your baby. I'm not saying that they're not important. I'm not saying that they're not needed, but let's just get real.
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Okay, you've read the books, you are listening to the podcast, you have listened to tons of podcasts, you've probably invested coaching courses, IVF, all the things, you have a PhD in this information. And you need this information. So you can understand why you're doing the thing when I learned about epigenetics, if you would have told me at 25.
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The word epigenetics, I would have been like, what? I don't even know how to spell that. But you need to have this information because when I learned about epigenetics, when I did the hard reading around that stuff, I was like, oh, I get it. I get why this thing that is so untangible right now is so incredibly important because it's the only thing I actually can control.
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And I can massively improve my cellular health to negate the risks of my children having long-term health issues. Neurodivergency, autism, genetic issues, mutated genes, whatever the list goes on. And then I'm going to have the consciousness to be a better parent. So I stop generational BS. Okay. So I'm not here to talk long to you guys about it.
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because the real question is this, are you actually living what you know? Because information without embodiment keeps you stuck. It keeps you in the same emotional loops, the same victim story, the same inner dialogue that cancels out all but some of the physical work you are doing. And I know because that was me for years and it was me
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after my fertility journey. This is my whole reason of doing what I'm doing now has radically shifted. The baby is a cherry on top. I know you guys are gonna get pregnant. That's not my biggest concern. My biggest concern for you and my ultimate goal for you is your self-worth, your self-love, your inner peace, you coming home to you.
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Because I know that when I do my job, that you're gonna have the baby. But you're not just gonna have the baby, you're gonna have a more blissful motherhood. So I'm gonna share with you this clip. You might have seen it on social media. I was doing some podcasting stuff and I saw this clip and I was like, man, I love this clip. It's raw, it's honest, exactly what I wish I had someone telling me.
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when I was 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34 even? Oh my, yeah, I'm pretty sure I got pregnant at 35 with my first. So all those years, I wish I would have just had this on repeat until I got it, until I understood. So here we go. Here's the bold, beautiful short clip. I want you to take this.
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and I want you to really feel into it what comes up. If I trigger you, that's where I want you to look. If you're like, hell yeah, girl, I feel you and you want more support, join me. Get on the email list if you are not already because I have right now opened up the group coaching sessions and the mini one-to-ones when you join either Dreams or Fertile Energetics. So without further, let's get into it.
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Until I started taking radical responsibility for my own bullshit, I was stuck in a loop of infertility BS. If I can go back to when I was 27 years old, when I started my journey, mind you, I got pregnant naturally at 36 after they told me that I couldn't improve my A-quality, failed IVFs, high natural killer cells were finally discovered. He goes back.
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and how my 27 year old self, who probably would fucking listen in the first place, this is what I would tell her. That story that you have on replay, the why that you're the victim, the why me, the oh, everyone finds it so much easier than me. I'm doing all the right things, but I'm still not getting pregnant. That story that I put on repeat again and again and again kept me stuck, kept me.
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so physically, mentally and emotionally stuck. It was ridiculous. Even though I was gonna still live in that reality that things weren't really working out in my favor as fast as I wanted them to, even though I was doing everything right, the reality was your physical body needs time to catch up with your mental reality.
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So you have to, you know, this whole kind of fake it till you make it. Not really because you're not faking fucking anything. You're showing up and you're doing the actual work that it needs to happen. But you cannot sit while you're doing the physical work and get into those massive slumps of victim of, right? You can definitely have some pity parties. Like that is no big deal. The moment you find yourself in that pity party,
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You go, okay, girl, we're not gonna live here anymore. Soar out what emotion is keeping you stuck, the anger, the jealousy, the fear, the control. Sort that shit out, let yourself feel it, scream, shout, move, cry, whatever you need to do and say, okay, we don't live here anymore. And when those thought patterns come again and again and again, you know they are, you're gonna consistently kick yourself out of it.
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Okay, do I need a pookie? Do I need a hug? Do I need a therapy session? Do I need a breathwork session? What do I need right now? Do I need to just tell myself, we're not going down that rabbit hole anymore? Because I promise you, that's what's gonna collapse the reality. That's what's gonna shift the timeline if you consistently show up in a different way. Thought process, emotions, actions. That's what's gonna create your reality, and that's what I would have told my 27 year olds.
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Thank you once again for tuning in and becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. Remember, I wasn't some magical unicorn who stumbled into fertility success. I stayed consistent. I put in the work and I made it happen. And guess what? You can too. And I have something for my loyal podcast listeners, but here's the key. This is only for women who are feeling burnt out, frustrated, and stuck in the cycle of endless research. And you're at a point
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where you are screaming, I have tried everything, why isn't this working? This only works for women who are ready to take a radical responsibility for their journey and start listening to their body's innate wisdom because deep down you know you can heal and achieve your ultimate goal. If that's not you yet, that's okay. Not everyone is ready yet to show up with ease.
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deeply connect to their energy, unlock subconscious patterns, and listen to their body's ability to come into full coherence. But for those who are ready, I'm offering something I only do with my paying clients, and this is a fertility breakthrough session. This is the first thing I do, even before I start really deeply working with someone in a coaching package. It's a deep dive session where we look at exactly
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where you are right now, what's keeping you stuck, and the easy shifts that can change everything. But fair warning, these sessions are very limited and go fast. So if you're interested in checking out my superpower for uncovering exactly what's been overlooked, jump into one of these free calls. They're deep, they're intuitive, and they're game changing. The only way you can access this is if you actually personally message me.
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You can do it on your favorite platform, IG, TikTok, or at my personal email, monica at findingfertility.co, not .com because they wanted $3,000 for the M with just one word. And that word is dreams. Obviously D-R-E-A-M-S. And I'll make sure you get that link right away. Remember this transformation happens when you stay committed to yourself.
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Trust your body, follow your intuition, make it possible. The links that you need are down below. And if you are still here and you absolutely love this podcast, please take some time and leave me a review and help other women like you find this podcast to get the support they need. Help a sister out. Leave a review today.
