From IVF Burnout to Fertility Breakthrough: Why Nervous System Healing Could Be Your Missing Link with Melisha Meredith Part Two
The Mundane Slap of Motherhood and Its Lessons
Motherhood is boring, repetitive, and exhausting — especially when you were raised to be a high-achieving overachiever. Cleaning that high chair for the hundredth time feels like a personal attack on your nervous system. But here’s the kicker: the mundane is where clarity lives. Your nervous system learns what it can handle, your patience gets tested, and you start recognizing what really matters. Connection beats perfection every time. This is where fertility trauma and nervous system reset intersect — because if your body is stressed from life’s little routines, it’s hard for it to cooperate with conception.
Obsession vs. Connection
Perfectionism is a fertility killer. We obsess over diets, supplements, IVF protocols, and micro-managing life. Melisha reminds us that obsessing over health at the expense of connection creates stress patterns that ripple through your body. Kids, partners, even yourself — none of it thrives in a control freak spiral. Emotional regulation is as important as any fertility treatment. Stop idolizing the “perfect plan” and start prioritizing connection and presence. Your body and your relationships will thank you.
“Just because you’re on a health journey doesn’t mean you’re above the curve. You have dips. You have chaos. And that’s okay — that’s where growth actually lives.”
Radical Responsibility Over Control
You can’t outsource your power. You can pay all the coaches, follow every diet, track every lab, and still feel stuck if you’re not taking radical responsibility for your journey. We call it showing up in the mundane: doing the small, consistent actions that build evidence of your body’s ability to heal. Whether it’s slowing down your Type A tendencies or noticing your energy cycles, it’s the consistent micro-choices that create big fertility shifts. IVF trauma isn’t just a medical journey; it’s a nervous system journey too.
“This transformation happens when you stay committed to yourself. Trust your body, follow your intuition, make it possible.”
Curiosity and Humility Are Fertility Superpowers
Thinking you have it all figured out keeps you stuck. We emphasize curiosity and humility as tools for transformation. Admit what isn’t working, experiment, and be willing to pivot. This isn’t a race; it’s a rewiring process. By staying open, you notice patterns, release emotional VHS tapes, and build trust with your intuition. Emotional regulation, fertility burnout recovery, and subtle lifestyle shifts all feed into this inner alignment.
Final Takeaway
Stop chasing perfection and start reclaiming your power. You’re not broken — you’ve just been silenced by overwhelm, guilt, and cultural “shoulds.” When you show up consistently, embrace curiosity, and trust your body, transformation happens. This is your invitation to pause, reflect, and step fully into your journey. You’ve got the tools, the wisdom, and the resilience — all you need is permission to trust yourself.
🎧 Press play on this episode for practical steps to reconnect with your intuition, navigate fertility burnout, and unlock the shifts that make healing possible.
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Monica
Listen up, lovelies: Everything I share about health, diet, or fertility magic is my opinion. Yep, it’s all based on years of trial and error, study, reading, listening, and side-eyeing the nonsense out there. What worked for me might be a jackpot for you—or it might be a total flop. Bodies are weird like that. 🤷♀️
Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a doctor, nutritionist, dietitian, or any other kind of licensed health wizard. If you need medical advice, run—don’t walk—to an actual qualified professional. Don’t come back here saying Monique told you to eat kale for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, okay?
As for the products I mention, they’re either what I used during my own infertility rollercoaster or what I wish I’d known about back then. No guarantees, no promises, and absolutely no refunds on your hope budget if it doesn’t work out.
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Full Transcript:
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Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.
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Monica, your mentor in uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey. Together, we'll discover the right path for you within the six essential steps to creating the family of your dreams. We'll ditch the overwhelm, tune into your intuition, and build a vibrant foundation for your fertility. Whether it's through gut health, subconscious healing, or energetic alignment, you can unlock your body's
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natural power to get and stay pregnant. Your fertility journey is all about radical responsibility and deeply believing that your body is on your side. It's time to stay consistent, embrace trust, surrender, and create the transformation you deserve. Finding fertility does not diagnose, prescribe, or treat any fertility issues. What we do is empower you to take control of your health by uncovering the root causes holding you back. Let's do this together.
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Happy Friyay y'all, welcome back to another episode of Finding Fertility. I'm your host Monica Cox and I am completely honored you are here with me, becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. Today we have the second half of Milisha's interview. I hope you're enjoying it. I really enjoy connecting with this beautiful woman. It's really funny, like we're kind of really different. We have different views on life and obviously not so different views on life.
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And I just love bringing people on who are a wealth of knowledge that just come from a different kind of background and landed in a similar space in a different way and can share their knowledge. So without further to do, let's get to today's episode. Here's the right path. Like just pretend I know 100%. That's the diet for you. That's the mindset work. That's what where people struggle and it'd be
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I would like your opinion on this too, is the mundane-ness of motherhood. When you are type A overachiever, go, go, go. That was the hugest slap in the face for me. Like I have 20 years early education. I was supposed to be Mary Poppins. I was supposed to be the Pinterest mom. And I struggled, especially after my second was born. So my two are about two years apart.
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So when you have to, it's definitely a different game as well. I struggled. I struggled to be present. I struggled to be the mom that I wanted to be because my whole nervous system was like, nope, too boring, too slow, too mundane. You know, if I have to clean that damn high chair one more time, I'm going to, you know. Yeah. So what was your kind of awakening with that? Yeah, I can relate to that. I don't like to...
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do repetitive things very much. Even with my menu plan, I really struggle. like, I cannot eat the same thing. I need some variety in my life. And becoming a mom was a big identity crisis for me of what do I really value? And that's really what it comes back to for me is you have to sit down with yourself and really think about what's valuable to you. What do you really value?
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Like, do you really value the Pinterest things? Right? Or do you really value this connection with your child? You know, that's for me, what has kept me motivated and sane, I think, to go back to that. And I think that's really a quality of somebody who is quote unquote healthy, right? Is somebody who can really keep their values in place as far as like,
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thinking about what you want most, not just what you want in that moment, but what you want most, right? So I would love to do X, Y, and Z, but like when I really think about it, what I want most is, you know, Right? So to give an example, you know, sometimes I can get really obsessive about the health stuff in my life.
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You know, and I, and I think, you know, well, I have to pack my kids these perfect lunches. My boys are going to football and they need so much protein and they, know, then they're going out and being lifeguards. And so I need to, you know, make sure that they're hydrating and, know, I get really obsessive about all these little details of life. And I forget the connection part of a healthy relationship with my kid. And so what I really want most is to not like.
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nag them all the time about health. Like we do talk about it a lot because I love it. And it's kind of a joke between us, you know, okay, mom, I got it. But what I really want most is that connection. And so if I, if I lose sight of that, then I can kind of get obsessive and even like idolize health and get really perfectionistic and nitpicky about it. So I have to keep in mind what I really want most. think that's probably the biggest lesson I've learned. Yeah.
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And it's so true because obviously I was into the health and wellness before I had kids, but relaxing a little bit too about reminding yourself, like, okay, if your kid has a Gatorade once a week from the snack bag, from their sports event, like, just let them have it. Let them be a part of that. You you're doing like, it's not about judging.
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But I am gonna be a little bit like, you're doing better than most. Like you're, you know, like you're conscious, you're doing the best that you can. But if you have that mom guilt, if you have that perfectionism and you're running those patterns, then you're gonna not have that connection because your kid's actually gonna probably resent you and just be like, well, you've put health above us and you know, it was all about that. You just wouldn't let us have fun. And they don't learn the lessons.
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right? When they start being old enough to go to parties by themselves, like I'm like, okay, you know what's good and you know what's bad. You know what a good amount is and you know what a bad amount is. And I think my eldest was probably like seven or eight and he went to a birthday party with marshmallows, hot chocolate and pizza and he overdid it and he came home and he's like, I feel like crap because I ate too much marshmallows. I like, I'm glad you can articulate that at seven years old. So next time.
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maybe just have one marshmallow instead of 10. And you have to teach your kids these lessons so they can go out and be confident in their own choices and independence, discernment, intuition, and all that. Yeah. And you're modeling all the time. So if I just get so obsessive and nitpicky and perfectionistic about the practical aspects of health in our home, then they're just going to leave and think, being healthy is so stressful.
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I do not want to do that. Like forget that. Right. So, so you have to keep like a really holistic view of health in mind, right? It's not all about doing everything perfectly with your diet and everything. It's also about like keeping the overwhelm down for you as a mom, right? And making sure your stress and your nervous system are healthy. Right. So exactly.
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And I think sometimes you don't know these things. Like, I didn't know how bad my nervous system was regulated to the school run, instead of until I started doing the school run with two kids. And then I like, because I had the consciousness, I was like, this is not normal. I should not feel like the house is on fire getting a kindergarten and a second grader to school, which I live like across the street from, which we're now homeschooling.
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I'm not gonna lie. That might be one of the top reasons I homeschooled. Can't handle the idea of going back and forth to the school like multiple times a day. Yeah, it's But if I didn't do it I would have never known because I was the kid who had to be woken up at 6 a.m So to go to daycare so my parents could work and then I would be after school till 5 5 30 at night so I Never my whole life until I was old enough to stay home alone. That's how I
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That's what my nervous system got imprinted. And even though I was kind of this, you know, stay home, working mom, we lived like I could throw a stone at the school. It was still insane. And I once again, you had to go in and do the work. And so sometimes when you're on this journey, you I really want people to know. And you know this as well. Like, you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to have the perfect cellular health or the
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perfect mental and emotional or clear every single block or frequency. But just making those steps along the way and recognizing having that radical honesty is just going to give you the confidence to keep going when times maybe potentially get rough, right? I'm sure you agree, like just because you figured this out, it doesn't mean you've always been above the curve. You have those dips.
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Yeah, everybody's going to be different as far as how fast they can change and how much they can change and how much they want to change, you know, on a certain timeframe. Yeah. So everybody's going to be different according, you know, their personality and the way they like to do things and how much they could, you know, what capacity they have for that in that time of their life. And so you have to give yourself grace to, you know, go at your own pace and, um, and, and make habits that
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can be long lasting in your life, you know, because if you, I had that problem, I tried to change so much at once that I kind of just like, forget this for a while. I've got to find a more sustainable way to make changes in my life. know what I mean? Absolutely. I was just on another podcast earlier and she's like, what's your non-negotiable? And I was like, well, I guess I have a few now, but in the real, I've been doing this for 15 years. So to be at the stage I'm at,
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It took me 15 years. if anyone said to you, you're going to have not the perfect life because you're still going to have to deal with a bunch of stuff, but it's going to take you that long. I know in a fertility journey, most women don't even want to hear give yourself three to six months. Stop trying to conceive. Don't do that round of IVF. Boost that cellular health. And the reality is, if some of the things that I could have done before
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Like some of the little nuggets of knowledge about the surrender and practicing being still in the type A-ness, all of the other knowledge and the things that I had to do probably would have come a lot quicker. But because we want tangible, we want certainty, we want control. It's harder to surrender to God and the universe and know that there's divine timing and not our timing.
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I think one of the most powerful characteristics you can have if you really want to change some things in your life, if you really want to progress in your health in every way is humility and the ability to to admit like, don't know it all, or maybe I was wrong about that in the past and to just be a lifelong learner that
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that sense of curiosity is one of my favorite characteristics to see in people. Because I was like, man, if you can just ask questions, if you can be someone who asks questions and admit that you maybe don't have it all figured out, you're going to make so much progress that way. You know, you don't have to, you can, again, you can do it at your own pace. But if you are on a health journey and wanting to grow, you're going to come across so many things that you kind of need to change in your life. And that's
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That's that you have to admit like, I was actually doing that wrong or that actually wasn't good for me. Right. And I need to change. And that's, that takes some like humility in your life. Absolutely. You know? And so that's, it can be hard. It can be kind of grating to be like, Oh, you know, like I was wrong about that. Like I was so sure that that was good, you know, or that I'm doing the right thing. Um, and sometimes it'll be your own intuition, those little, you know, that little feeling that you get, be like,
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Oh, maybe, maybe I need to change this. Like, I was so certain that this was healthy, you know, or good. And actually, I don't think it is. I think this is the thing I need to change. And you have to be humble enough to make that change. It's a pretty, yeah, pretty humbling process. I think it's the it's the one thing that will get you to where you want is that being curious, being humble.
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taking that radical responsibility for yourself because no one's going to do it for you. You can pay all the coaches, the doctors. But you have to show up for you in the mundane. And that's what will create your consistent action, will create your evidence. have to trust yourself, right? You have to trust yourself. And most people don't because they look at most of their life and think they've failed.
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especially in a fertility journey because you're not seeing six. Obviously, you're not feeling successful if you are not holding that baby. So you think you're failing that whole time. But if you can shift your perspective to, OK, I learned what didn't work. Am I going to pattern the same way? Am I going to jump into another IVF? I going to do the same diet? Like for me, that was a harsh reality. I was on the perfect diet. I was on the Paleo diet.
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And then I told you I found Sarah's blog, The Paleo Mom, and I was like, oh, I'm still eating nightshades, which at the time was a big issue for me. Yeah. I mean, I could look at my journey and say I wasted a year if I would have just known that. But it's just like, OK, would I have been able to go from the normal standard American diet? I didn't even have really a bad diet at that stage to autoimmune paleo. Probably not. Like just going paleo.
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hard enough and creating those new habits. So by time I was asked to do the autoimmune paleo by myself. And you were ready. I was ready. Yeah. Where, like you said, maybe if I would have jumped into it, I would have given up sooner. But shifting direction is just a little bit. I know at the end of our last conversation, you had me on your podcast, which was so kind. So fun.
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Having that faith and that trust inside of you, and we weren't taught that by society, by our family, by our religious groups. And I have a lot of women who are still religious and now using these new tools, which you are 100%, right? Your intuition in your discernment is a God given, I wouldn't even say it's given, it is God, right? Like that is your connection.
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to source. I don't know, because I'm not in the church. I kind of feel like the church is switching their message a little bit about getting into the emotions and the subconscious and the more of there's less of a divide, I want to say, between it. But there's still this kind of like, is it witchcraft? Is it, you know, like
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I have my best friend, she's still very religious and she has someone in her community who is a Reiki master. And so she's like, oh, I'm going to talk to her and see her opinion on what the difference is between the Reiki and the religion and all that. So I know that you have your own path and I would just love to get your opinion on combining and moving through what you have moved through still being, you know, I think like a follower of Christ. Yeah.
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Yeah, I would say I'm a Christian and like a faith has been a huge part of my health journey. It's part of my value that we talked about toward the beginning. You know, it's kind of what I come back to. I feel like my health and my body and my family are all gifts from God that I really want to steward well. And that's a huge motivator for me. You know, I feel like I just have these gifts, right, that I've been given and I want to take good care of them, you know, in appreciation for the gifts that they are. so and through that, like knowing
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I could go on a long time about this, but I feel like there's all kinds of extremes in the church as far as all different kinds of traditions. And so there's going to be tons of variety for people who are religious. So I do recognize that. But for me, like in my background as a child, as I grew, I learned that some things that I learned
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weren't necessarily true. They were more just like cultural norms of the church or of the religion, you know, that people thought were good, but they're not necessarily true. They're just kind of like, you know, do this and you'll be accepted more, you know, kind of things. And so that sense of legalism, I guess. And so as I got older, I really just started to ask myself, well, is this really true, you know, for me, me being having scripture as a guide?
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and being a follower of Christ, like, is this really true or is this just like more of a cultural Christian norm, right? And then also, honestly, being a homeschool mom, like, I feel like I've given myself a whole new education as we've studied chemistry and the natural world and biology and anatomy and all of those things. And just seeing how, from my perspective, how God has created all of
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You know, we talk about energy, like some people have a struggle with, you know, energy and thinking about frequencies and things like that. And I'm like, this is the most natural thing that we could do or talk about, right? God, I feel like God just created, you talk about chemistry or molecules or cellular health and structure, like it's all energy. Like, and so why would this not be a tool that we could use, you know, even being a person of faith?
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to live more healthy. mean, to me, that would be something that God would, you know, to me, that would be something that God would approve of more than like a pharmaceutical, putting this like foreign, you know, thing into my body that, you know, is not really natural at all. And so, I don't know, that's just my perspective. So for me, as a process of just really like, be curious again, right? Be humble.
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and really just start to analyze, well, is that something that's really true? Or is it something that some people believed and I just kind of picked up as a cultural or Christian norm? And is there really anything wrong with this? Or is it just something that I had from my growing up or from my culture and my circle that people thought was wrong because they didn't understand it? Yeah. Yeah. I totally agree.
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I think that was a big thing for me is unpacking the subconscious beliefs. I had to work through a lot of shame because I grew up Catholic and Catholics really like to put that shame and blame and guilt in their package. I love the Catholics. My mom's still Catholic, right? So I'm not dissing anything, but it was...
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just interesting to kind of go, okay, I have to unpack this in a neutral way. Because I see a lot of spiritual people, and there's all levels of crazy on the spiritual, But they're so angry at the church, and it's interesting because I'm like, yeah, but here you are preaching love and light. can't be that way towards
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anything, you're always trying to get back to neutral. You just don't participate in it or you don't believe in it, but you can't be like, the church is the ultimate evil, because that's really not true at all in that sense. just being that, you know, going back, like you say, the discernment, the intuition, is this true for me? Is this right for me? Don't follow the gurus. Don't follow necessarily the experts.
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Even when I work with someone, always say, if I say something to you, either a suggestion or something, and it doesn't feel right, let's work together and find what feels right. Because you ultimately know what's best for you, and you're still practicing that tool that just got quieted down for whatever reason. And I don't even think you have to be religious for this not to be a thing in your life.
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Um, and as you build that, that muscle, right? Yeah. Then you get stronger and stronger and you're not going to need someone to predict the future for you or tell you what to do. You're just going to show up because you know what naturally feels right for you. Yeah. And you know, as a person of faith, like prayer is a big part of my life. Um, you know, asking God for wisdom, asking him to bring the right people into my life that can help.
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my family, you know, help us to find the right people that have wisdom that could help our family, you know, and vice versa, bring people that we could help and share our wisdom with. And so, you know, I still very much like, you know, talk to God about all of these things that are going on in our lives. And that just comes back to this whole integrated journey that we're on, you know, it's not just the physical outward things, it's the spiritual, emotional, mental.
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and physical things that are all part of your health journey. And so if you feel those kinds of questions coming up in your own life, you know, with your own religious background or whatever, just stop and sit with that. You know, don't just brush over it or ignore it. Really stop and sit with that and try to work through that because I can see that being a big source of tension and stress in your own life. Even if you don't, even if it's subconscious, right? Your nervous system is still.
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really fighting through that. So don't ignore it. Just embrace the tension a little bit and kind of work through it. Yeah, absolutely. Because yeah, you're 100 % right. you just try to ignore it, right? And it goes to that human innateness that we want to be a part of the group. And when we start thinking differently to what everyone around us, our community, you're going to be exiled, right?
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And really, I was having this conversation with a client because she was just like, I really struggle to have conversations with people now. I was like, are you the only one changing? She's like, yeah. I was like, Because you're just on a different wavelength now. really are. You're the one who's changed. And it may seem that they're exiling you, but you're kind of doing it to yourself for your highest purpose.
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and you will find that group who will, and it's not about just hanging out with people who agree with you. That is another point. But at the same time, people with that vibe that you can have a two-way conversation, that's why I love podcasting. And when I meet someone, I always get like, well, what are we going to talk about? I don't have a fertility struggle. I'm like, no.
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Do know how rare it is to have good genuine conversations? Like I do some podcasts that are not good, you know? Like it's not, so finding those people you vibe with, you just know they don't have to have the same belief systems or the same, I don't know, or any of that. If you can have a genuine conversation that you're both just moving the conversation forward and you're growing. Right. That's that humility. Yeah.
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all that matters. Yeah. And I mean, being on a healing journey can definitely be isolating and it can definitely feel lonely sometimes because you had your people and now you're growing in different ways, you know, and they can't really understand that. And it can definitely feel isolating, but that won't last forever. Like if you keep growing, right. And you're, putting yourself out there to, um, you know, meet people that are like, binded and stuff, like you'll find your people again. Like, just know if you're in that isolated stage, like that won't last forever.
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Yeah, exactly. I know that we can continue talking and talking and talking, but we're going to end it here. Just let our listeners know where they can find you and connect with you. Yeah, my website is the daily wellness community dot com. And so I have my blog and my podcast link there. And then the Daily Wellness Podcast is also on YouTube and Spotify and my website and Apple. Well, we'll make sure that all the links are down in the show notes.
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Thank you so much for making the time and coming to talk to us and sharing your wisdom as a conscious mama. You did it. I did it. I'm still there. I feel like, you you pour so much into your kids. And then I have one that's going to go off to college next year. And I'm like, oh, my gosh, will she remember anything? So we're about to find out. We're about to find out. She will. She will. All right. Thank you so much. And until next time, thank you once again for tuning in and becoming the conscious mama you were born to be.
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Remember I wasn't some magical unicorn who stumbled into fertility success. I stayed consistent. I put in the work and I made it happen. And guess what? You can too. And I have something for my loyal podcast listeners, but here's the key. This is only for women who are feeling burnt out, frustrated and stuck in the cycle of endless research. And you're at a point where you are screaming, I have tried everything. Why isn't this working?
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