Why You Can’t Hear Your Intuition—and How It’s Blocking Your Fertility with Katie Beecher Medical Intuitive Part Two
You’re exhausted. Not just tired—soul-deep, IVF-trauma, “what’s-left-to-try?” exhausted. You’ve charted the cycles, done the yoga, cut the gluten, took the supplements, begged the Universe, and maybe even yelled at it once or twice (no shame). And somehow, you still feel stuck. Floating in this weird limbo between hope and heartbreak.
Here’s the truth no one tells you: it’s not just your hormones—it’s your nervous system, your trauma patterns, your obsession with control disguised as “doing everything right.” But what if healing wasn’t about doing more... but doing less?
IVF Didn’t Break You—But Burnout Might
If you’ve been through the emotional meat grinder of IVF, you already know: the physical poking is one thing—but the emotional whiplash is next-level. Hope. Crash. Repeat.
What no one warns you about is the silent trauma this cycle creates. It’s not that your body’s broken—it’s that it’s on red alert. Constantly.
Fertility burnout isn’t laziness or “not trying hard enough.” It’s a nervous system so fried, it can’t tell the difference between a tiger and a negative pregnancy test. The healing starts not with another protocol, but with safety. Inner. Still. Quiet. Safety.
“Your nervous system needs to feel safe just sitting on the couch. That’s the real work.”
If You Can’t Sit Still, You’re Not Weak—You’re Human
Let’s get real. If the idea of sitting with your thoughts for five minutes makes you itchy, welcome to the club. You’re not “bad at meditation.” You’ve just been conditioned to outsource your power to productivity. You were taught to DO. To FIX. To CONTROL.
But here's the secret: healing doesn’t happen in the control freak spiral. It happens in the space you avoid. The stillness. The not-knowing. That’s where intuition—your real fertility guide—lives.
So, if silence freaks you out? That’s actually your invitation. Not punishment.
Your Intuition Isn’t Broken—She’s Just Been Ignored
You know this on a gut level: there’s a deeper part of you that already has the answers. The problem is, you stopped listening a long time ago. Maybe after the third failed round. Or when a doctor shrugged and said, “unexplained.” Or when you couldn’t remember the last time you actually trusted your body.
But intuition isn’t gone. She’s patient as hell. And there’s a simple way to reconnect: grab a pen. Start a conversation. Literally.
Write to your spirit baby. Your body. Your higher self. And then? Let her write back. No fluff. No pressure. Just honesty. It’s weird. It’s healing. It’s your access point to emotional regulation, clarity, and connection that no protocol can give you.
“You’re not relinquishing control. You’re finally sharing the load.”
The Scary Truth About Surrender
Yeah, yeah. Everyone says, “just surrender.” But what does that actually mean when your heart is breaking and your bank account’s screaming and your brain is already five steps ahead on the next plan?
Surrender is not giving up. It’s letting go of the illusion that control keeps you safe.
It’s pausing long enough to hear something besides your own panic.
It’s listening to your body instead of Google.
And—bonus—it’s where the magic happens: emotional resilience, intuitive clarity, spiritual connection. (Oh, and sometimes, pregnancy.)
Final Takeaway:
If nothing else, let this land: you are not broken. You’re just burned out from carrying it all. Alone. On overdrive.
You don’t need more supplements. You need space. You don’t need more advice. You need access to your own wisdom. Reconnecting with your intuition isn’t a luxury—it’s your birthright.
Start with five minutes. Pick up the pen. Ask your body, “What do you need from me today?” Then listen. That’s where your real power lives.
Listen to the full episode here: Why You Can’t Hear Your Intuition—and How It’s Blocking Your Fertility for the rest of this eye-opening conversation and take your first step toward real transformation:
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Monica
Listen up, lovelies: Everything I share about health, diet, or fertility magic is my opinion. Yep, it’s all based on years of trial and error, study, reading, listening, and side-eyeing the nonsense out there. What worked for me might be a jackpot for you—or it might be a total flop. Bodies are weird like that. 🤷♀️
Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a doctor, nutritionist, dietitian, or any other kind of licensed health wizard. If you need medical advice, run—don’t walk—to an actual qualified professional. Don’t come back here saying Monique told you to eat kale for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, okay?
As for the products I mention, they’re either what I used during my own infertility rollercoaster or what I wish I’d known about back then. No guarantees, no promises, and absolutely no refunds on your hope budget if it doesn’t work out.
Now that we’ve cleared that up, proceed with curiosity and, above all, discernment. You’ve got this. 💪✨
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Full transcript:
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Hello, beautiful, and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.
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Monica, your mentor in uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey. Together, we'll discover the right path for you within the six essential steps to creating the family of your dreams. We'll ditch the overwhelm, tune into your intuition, and build a vibrant foundation for your fertility. Whether it's through gut health, subconscious healing, or energetic alignment, you can unlock your body's natural power to get and stay pregnant.
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Your fertility journey is all about radical responsibility and deeply believing that your body is on your side. It's time to stay consistent, embrace trust, surrender, and create the transformation you deserve. Finding fertility does not diagnose, prescribe, or treat any fertility issues. What we do is empower you to take control of your health by uncovering the root causes holding you back. Let's do this together.
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Happy Friday. Welcome back to another episode of Finding Fertility. I'm your host, Monica Cox, and I am so honored you are here with me, becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. Today, we have the second half of Katie's interview, who is a medical intuitive. You guys know I love this stuff. And it is the next layer of our journey when we are doing everything physically right.
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getting into that energy, getting into the energetics, the frequency, connection, it just brings this like magic to your journey because we're not stressing over things anymore. We're just going with flow to the best of our abilities. So without further to do, let's get to today's episode. So , what are a few techniques that you help your clients?
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really tap into that intuition and gain that ability to connect with, you know, either a spirit baby or maybe even someone like a grandparent or a parent that they would like to receive support and guidance from. Definitely. So, and this is all detailed in my book. which is called, let's not brush over that. What is your book called? Heal from within: a guidebook to intuitive wellness. And it's
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My story, it's kind of taking people through how I do a reading and there's charts and exercises and there's a lot of visual stuff in there. Some people get the audio and the actual book, but there's lot of activities that it's identifying the things that you need to work on, identifying strengths and then really getting into in detail how to address them, how to connect to intuition.
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all sorts of other things. And there's a heavy emphasis on Jungian psychology in there, too. art stuff and symbolism and things. So, yeah, this technique I learned when I was 16, I've modified it some, still do it. And the idea is that intuition or your guides are an all-knowing force connected to unconditional love. It's like having a best friend with you.
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somebody that knows everything about you. And the more that you get what you need from this source, the less important it is what other people are doing and saying, and thinking. So it helps set boundaries and makes you more secure in who you are. So that's kind of the underlying premise. And the technique is to physically write out a question or your thoughts or feelings, and direct it to either
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Whatever you call your intuition, that person in spirit, the spirit baby, you can talk to your pets, you can talk to your body, any of those things using this technique. So you write out your stuff, and I'll give you some examples. And then whatever you hear or feel, write that down, and then write back to it. And then whatever you get, write that down and write back to it. So you're having an actual written conversation.
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What that does, you have to stop what you're doing to write. So it kind of calms down a lot of the distraction, calms your nervous system. It makes you very present. It's kind of like a mindfulness meditation as a nice side effect to all the information that you get. you can, sometimes I just say, Do you have anything to tell me? Because again, we have our agendas and sometimes we need to out of our way and just listen and see what comes to us.
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And I also, you know, ask things about why this is happening right now? What can I learn from it? What are some steps I need to take to address some of these things? Literally anything, you know, how can I, what do I need to do to be more authentic? How can I set boundaries? I mean, there's no limit to the questions or things you can bring up. Sometimes I just start writing and just work and see what I get. So.
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You can do it for five minutes, 20 minutes, but it really, really, really is a game changer. And yeah, literally saved my life. Yeah, no, definitely. For all the type A women out there, I can hear them screaming right now, like, what do you mean? I have to just listen. Here's the thing. Most of us haven't been trained.
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To even, I mean, I had a client once that literally could not sit with herself for five minutes, right? She had to be reading a book, looking on her phone, talking. You know, a lot of women, okay, don't turn off the podcast right now, but they'll do their walking with their, just consume, consume, consume, right? And it's the hardest thing for them to just listen. So, what is a trick?
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That or, or not a trick, you know, like, like I have something, but I want to let you go first, of what they can do to handle that. Handle that five minutes of silence. Right. Right. So for me, it's a mindset. You, especially if you've been through trauma, I have been through life where you haven't had control, things like that, right? Control is a survival mechanism. So, but it doesn't always serve us.
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So the way I like to think about it is I am always here, control is an option. Any actions I need to take are always an option. But when I start to go overboard and hijack the situation or hijack my life, it just, anxiety and control just take over. I like to think of spirit, intuition, whatever, as an all-knowing friend, a best friend who can come in
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and say, you know what, you don't have to take this all on yourself. You don't have to be in control of this. We're here to help you. We're team members. And if you let us, we can give you ideas of things that will help you solve this problem or help you calm down or help you address whatever it is that you're control freaking out about. But let us be part of your team. If you need to step in and take over, you can.
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So you're not relinquishing anything. You're actually gaining a lot more power and control of the situation. Yeah, yeah. I mean, that's so good just to keep reminding yourself and going back to the nervous system, if you want to try this technique out and you struggle, you're just sitting with yourself and your nervous system and feeling that like.
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You know, the anxiety of like, I'm not doing anything. I, you know, I need to be doing deep breath work or yoga or, you know, something like that, which are supportive, you know, they're still important. you know, your nervous system needs to feel safe by not doing anything. And that's a really, really big thing for a lot of women in this society, is that we just don't even feel safe by sitting on the couch, which is
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crazy and hands up, both hands up. So just getting real, real with yourself and being radically honest and saying, how am I showing up to this activity in the first place? If I can't do it or if I'm struggling to do it, let me take a step back and see what I can realize about myself. And that's still using your guides.
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That's still tapping into that, but it might not feel as pressured. And also, whatever comes to you, let it come. Yeah. If you get something that doesn't relate at all to what you wrote about, that is totally OK. You needed to hear that other thing. Exactly. Or a lot of people are afraid to listen because they're afraid of scary information. Like, guess what? You need to change this. Or you need to set this boundary. Or you need to get out of this job. Or you need to leave your partner or whatever.
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So we push that down instead, allow the scary stuff, and then talk back to it. Why does this scare me? What can you do to support me? What are some steps I can take? Or even on that day, it's not gonna happen. But I promised to check in within a couple of days and revisit this. But just kind of, doesn't wanna control you. It wants you to be part of this process and wants to enhance your life. Yeah, exactly. And that's a really
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interesting point of like us controlling the situation, where the deep surrender, and people are like, you keep talking about surrender. What is it? It's like, well, let's talk about letting go of control first before we can move into that surrender and where the magic happens with connection to source, to babies, to anything, you know, even to your higher self.
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Um, you know, when you're coming up to a really big decision, instead of getting the checklists out and the pros and cons, sit with yourself for 10 minutes. How, how does it feel in your body moving into that situation? Cause that's going to be more information than it costs this. I have to do this. I have to show up this and then, you know, how do you feel? And most people don't realize that you can, it's probably a hundred percent accurate once you
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fine tune it once you really get into that, because I always get well, I thought I followed my intuition, and it didn't work out. Well, then that means that was something you needed to go through to release something else, you know, or I don't believe that there are lessons, right? It drives me crazy when people are like, well, you needed to learn that lesson. It's just like, that's not that no, we like if we look at life as lessons, then we're gonna want to quit.
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because it feels like a lesson after a lesson. It's just more information, and you get to choose. You have that choice. What information do you want to take from it? Do you want to say, well, that was just random? You know, that was just part of it. I don't need to go in deep dive. I don't need to do that. Or sometimes you look and go, okay, I'm going to be radically honest. I thought I followed my intuition.
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This is what came out of it. Oh, look at what lesson I just learned, or look at what tools that I can now have from that experience. Yeah, no, I totally agree with everything you said. And I think a lot of the, I'll put it in quotes, but negative things that happened to us, our intuition presented us with choices, and we chose not to take that route. And so sometimes you do have to
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hear the same thing over and over again or be injured many times to learn that yes, you have to actually rest when your body tells you to rest, or, you know, we don't want to get you into a car accident or hit you over the head with a sledgehammer. We'd like you to listen earlier, like when you just have a little stomach ache, you know? Yeah, exactly. And unfortunately, the way that we have been programmed,
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I always say it has to get pretty uncomfortable in your life to make those radical changes because you think you're gonna just get out of jail free, right? Like, oh, that's not a big thing. I'll just keep going. Oh, I'm gonna push through it. No. And, you know, it's all the patterning behind what's going on, right? It's not because you're broken. It's not because you're dumb. It's not because you don't listen. You know, there is, the subconscious mind is so powerful.
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And if it's not programmed in the right way, it could be your lead to some demise. And that is where you get to step in and say, okay, enough is enough. I know when I hit like, when I was around 41, you know, I've dabbled in all modalities, and I was doing the human design. And one of my like lines was you like to learn through lessons. And I was like, no, I'm done with that.
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I'm not going to identify, I don't care if it's in my chart. I am done learning lessons. I'm going to be a quick learner. Okay, I might have to learn it once, but I'm not going to go through it five times anymore. And that was definitely a repeating pattern for me. So once you have that knowledge of like, you know, nothing defines you, you know, all these modalities that can give you insight into who you are. I truly believe, okay, get that insight. And if you don't like it, change it.
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Like I did not want to be on line three anymore, where I learned through lessons. Like, no, thank you. Very true. We have a lot more control than we realize, but I think we're also very afraid of that control. And we want to make decisions, we don't like being told what to do, but then we're really afraid to be wrong. So it's just to be aware of that about ourselves. Sometimes my hosts want to be like, you're the biggest control freak I know who hates to make decisions.
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So if you have no proof of it now, but you want to get there, just take the actions to get there, reprogram that subconscious mind, show up for yourself differently. Make sure you're checking your energy field of who's around you, right? The basic 101. And people don't realize how much that actually impacts their life. Especially when you're going through a fertility journey and you have...
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you know, negative Nancy's all around you, it's going to be really hard to bring yourself up if you're getting draw, you know, drawn back and into drama, family drama, French drama, work drama, you know, really putting that separation to be able to, you know, stand in this new frequency that isn't quite there yet for you, but you want it to be there. It is taking that radical responsibility around your whole life. And like we said in the beginning,
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it's really gonna impact how you move through the rest of your fertility journey, your pregnancy, your postpartum, and raising your children. I cannot stress enough, and it's so hard to articulate until you go through it yourself. Your children are gonna bring you this level of joy that is unmatched, but they also are going to bring you the same level of discomfort.
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and whatever you got going in the background and amplify it until you transmute it. and if you don't learn, I'm sorry, sorry. No, go ahead. If you don't learn to put them first, and I don't mean at the expense of yourself, but I do mean you have to push aside what your parents think or in-laws or any of other stuff, that child needs to come first.
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And if you cannot do that, then that is something you may really, really need to work on before that child is ready to come in. Yeah. I mean, that is a sticky conversation over in motherhood, parenthood land of, know, yes, not as a sacrifice, but I don't think people realize what they're actually doing with motherhood and fatherhood is stewarding another
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soul through this, and as the human experience that first let's even say eight to 14 years, are just crucial to how they're going to be a contributing member to society. And we're not talking about, you know, raising Ivy League scholars or like super success. We're talking about happiness and joy and doing what they love. Yes, like just
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not getting sucked into the drama that is around them and having that confidence and love inside of them that they can then give out to the world and have that ripple effect. But everything you're doing now, to your mitochondria, Epigenetics threw me into staying with what I learned about the physical body, because it
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has an effect on your child before your child even becomes the clump of cells from the egg and the sperm. And then moving into the energetics, as I found out later in life, like start clearing as much as you can before the baby comes. Because it is harder. It is harder to do when you're sleep deprived, when you have someone else to take care of, when maybe you have to work and be a mom, you know, like.
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It is just you have the space. If you don't have any children right now, you have a hundred times more space. You know, you really do start, you know, bringing in other aspects like, oh, I wish I could do this, but no, I'm going to show up for my kid because I chose to have this kid. And, know, I do need to make time and space for me. But right now, in the thick of it, you capitalize on that space.
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Or even if you have one or two children and you want to bring a third or a fourth in, capitalize on the space you have now. Yeah, it's true. parenting, I always like to say parenting is only hard if you're doing it right. Yes. you have to make a lot of tough decisions. Like I had to set limits with my parents or in-laws or things like that, that maybe I wouldn't have been as motivated to do because it didn't really matter as much.
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But when it came to treating my kid that way, was like, oh, oh no, this, no, we're not, we're definitely not, no. So it's, it is hard and it takes a lot of strength, and yeah, not to be entered into lightly. Yeah. And you know, I say when you're doing these things on a physical and an emotional level, it just makes that time after, know, quote unquote, infertility so much more joyful.
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you are patterning right now the way you were patterning before you even entered into a fertility journey. If you don't make some radical changes there, you are going to pattern the exact same way during your pregnancy and postpartum into motherhood until you hit that wall because that's how the body works. It doesn't matter if you're getting stressors from environment, your diet, or from you know, the emotions and the trauma and all that, you will hit a wall.
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And that's why secondary infertility is massively on a rise is because we are just hitting more walls quicker. Technically, with hindsight, I was probably infertile at like 17, right? And I didn't try to conceive until I was 27, which is still radically young.
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So we're seeing these things a lot earlier because of the genetics, it's just caught up with us. The emotional trauma from centuries, and you know, all that, and then the environment, right? So I know it's hard to hear. Yeah, go ahead. was gonna say, this is not to place blame. You aren't doing anything wrong. You're not a bad person. You're not, you know, this is not like
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Like I'm so perfect and I did all this stuff and now I can tell you what to do. dear God, no. You know, it's just kind of part of the, I believe that life, God, whatever you want to call it, really wants us to be happy and wants us to be authentic and do our work here and raise other beings that we can encourage to be happy and do their stuff and be authentic here.
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So to me, it's just part of that process, it's really hard like it does make you happier in the end. Oh yeah absolutely it is you know when you're in the thick of it and you're just willing to show up for yourself every single day and even if that just means getting out of bed and presenting yourself to the world you know in a slightly more joyful way than you might possibly might be feeling or you know being radically selfish.
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You know, taking that setting boundaries, saying no, taking time off work to relax. And, know, if you're going into a procedure, I know, like I look back at my first IVF, and I was like, what was I even thinking? Working like a 40 to 50-hour work week, traveling an hour and a half to this clinic. Like, no wonder my body was like, absolutely not, you know? And I just didn't honor, I was like, well, I could do it. I could do it. I could do it. Right?
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Yeah, so just really honoring yourself. I am, you some final thoughts from you. I always say that your baby is looking down on you. That soul is with you. It is watching you. It's rooting for you. And it's encouraging you to become that conscious mama you were born to be. So when you're moving through life, take a breath and say,
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Is this how my baby wants to come in? I'm really stressed out. X, Y, and Z. Is this what I want? Is this what they want? And when you can get radically honest, you can maybe start making some different moves. I love that. And the other thing I'm hearing connected to that is, remember that they are coming here to be your teacher too.
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And are you ready to be open to what they have to say and their thoughts, because they are honest as hell. Dear God, so are you ready to hear that, to look at yourself, to be like, yeah, my child is right. I really just screwed that up and I need to say I'm sorry, or I need to do it differently. And especially now they're just so wise. We've learned so much from our two grown adult children, but we always said,
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far smarter than we were at Yes. And smarter than we are now. you know, I think that's also a huge part of it. Yeah. You're a hundred percent true. It was so beautiful talking with you. Thank you so much for coming on. Please let our listeners know where they can find you. Certainly. So the easiest place is my website. It's just katiebeacher.com. Very, very simple.
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I'm on Instagram and all the other things, Katie Beecher, Medical Intuitive, but you can get to all that through my website. And the book is wherever books are sold. And there's an Amazon link on my website too. But yeah, I'd love to hear from people. Yeah, perfect. I'll put all those links down in the show notes. And once again, thank you so much for coming on. My pleasure. Thank you so much for having me. Thank you once again for tuning in and becoming the conscious mama you were born to be.
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Remember, I wasn't some magical unicorn who stumbled into fertility success. I stayed consistent. I put in the work and I made it happen. And guess what? You can too. And I have something for my loyal podcast listeners, but here's the key. This is only for women who are feeling burnt out, frustrated, and stuck in the cycle of endless research. And you're at a point where you are screaming, I have tried everything. Why isn't this working?
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