The End of Infertility Overdoing: A New Frequency for Fertility Healing :: 20 Weeks of Noticing
There is a moment in this journey that no one prepares you for.
Not the diagnosis.
Not the failed cycle.
Not even the waiting.
It is the moment when you realize you are doing everything.
And still feel wired.
Tired.
Braced.
Your body is not collapsing.
It is holding.
Holding the pace.
Holding the hope.
Holding the pressure you no longer notice because it feels familiar.
This is where so many women live.
Highly capable.
Deeply informed.
Quietly overwhelmed.
You are not broken here.
You are oriented outward.
Listening.
Scanning.
Trying to get it right.
And somewhere along the way, your system learned that effort equals safety.
That vigilance equals care.
That if you just stay on top of it, nothing will slip through.
This pattern is not wrong.
It once protected you.
But it is loud.
And fertility does not speak loudly.
Neither does rest.
Nor intuition.
Nor the body’s quieter yes.
There is a difference between being responsible and being vigilant.
Between being committed and being clenched.
Your nervous system knows the difference even if your mind does not.
You might notice it in the way your shoulders never drop.
In how stillness feels awkward instead of nourishing.
In how silence immediately fills with planning.
This is not a mindset issue.
It is an orientation issue.
Your system has been facing outward for a long time.
Waiting for the next instruction.
The next protocol.
The next thing to manage.
And yet, the deepest shifts rarely come from adding.
They come from turning.
Turning inward without force.
Without fixing.
Without urgency.
This is where relief begins.
Not because something is solved.
But because something is no longer being held alone.
You do not need to prove your devotion to this journey.
Your body already knows you care.
What it is asking for now is something subtler.
Presence.
Permission.
A gentler relationship with effort.
This is not about giving up.
It is about no longer pushing against yourself.
When the nervous system feels seen, it softens.
When it softens, information reorganizes.
When information reorganizes, the body remembers its own timing.
Nothing here needs to be rushed.
Nothing here needs to be fixed tonight.
Let yourself notice where you are gripping.
Not to change it.
Just to feel it.
And then let that noticing be enough for now.
No conclusion.
No next step.
Just a breath that finally reaches all the way down.
What These 20 Weeks Are Really About
This is not a challenge.
Not a reset.
Not a new protocol.
And it is definitely not another attempt to fix yourself.
These 20 weeks exist for one reason only.
To help you move out of the patterns that keep looping, even though you already know better.
Because if information alone created change, you would already be living in a very different reality.
Most of the women I work with are deeply informed.
They have researched.
They have studied.
They have tried.
And yet something keeps pulling them back into the same habits.
The same emotional rhythms.
The same sense of urgency, pressure, and self monitoring.
That is not a lack of discipline.
It is not a lack of effort.
And it is not because you are doing it wrong.
It is because transformation does not happen at the level of knowing.
It happens at the level of frequency.
These 20 weeks are an invitation to stop chasing the next answer and start noticing how you are actually moving through your life.
Not in the big moments.
In the ordinary ones.
The way you wake up.
The way you plan your day.
The way you relate to time.
The way you handle uncertainty.
The way your body responds when you feel behind, pressured, or responsible for making things work.
This series is designed to slow you down just enough for you to see what has been running quietly underneath.
Each week builds on the last.
Not by adding more.
But by taking away what no longer fits.
We start with control.
Not the obvious kind.
The subtle kind that looks like responsibility, preparedness, and doing the right thing.
Then we move into overdoing.
The constant movement that feels productive but leaves your nervous system tired and braced.
Then we look at time pressure.
The stories about being behind, too late, or running out of options.
Not to debate them.
Not to fight them.
But to notice how often they are shaping your choices.
And from there, we shift into something quieter and more powerful.
Radical responsibility.
Awareness without judgment.
Presence in the mundane.
Not as concepts.
As lived experience.
These episodes are intentionally short.
You may find yourself thinking, is that it?
And that reaction matters.
Because the part of you that wants more information is the same part that has been trying to control the outcome.
This work asks something different of you.
It asks you to feel.
To notice.
To observe without immediately fixing.
To recognize that the frequency behind your actions matters more than the actions themselves.
This is not about doing less forever.
It is about doing from a different place.
A place that is steadier.
More honest.
Less reactive.
By the end of these 20 weeks, you will not have a checklist.
You will have orientation.
You will recognize your patterns sooner.
You will feel when you are pushing instead of listening.
You will know when to pause without needing permission.
And that changes everything.
Not just in fertility.
In relationships.
In work.
In how you experience yourself.
This series is a window into the way we work inside Fertile Energetics.
Not as a method to follow.
But as a way of being that creates real, sustainable shifts.
If you stay, come with curiosity.
Not expectation.
Let the noticing do the work.
That is enough.
Listen Now: The End of Infertility Overdoing: A New Frequency for Fertility Healing
Week One: Infertility & IVF Burnout, Control & the Slow Shifts That Actually Change Everything
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Listen up, lovelies: Everything I share about health, diet, or fertility magic is my opinion. Yep, it’s all based on years of trial and error, study, reading, listening, and side-eyeing the nonsense out there. What worked for me might be a jackpot for you—or it might be a total flop. Bodies are weird like that. 🤷♀️
Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a doctor, nutritionist, dietitian, or any other kind of licensed health wizard. If you need medical advice, run—don’t walk—to an actual qualified professional. Don’t come back here saying Monique told you to eat kale for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, okay?
As for the products I mention, they’re either what I used during my own infertility rollercoaster or what I wish I’d known about back then. No guarantees, no promises, and absolutely no refunds on your hope budget if it doesn’t work out.
Now that we’ve cleared that up, proceed with curiosity and, above all, discernment. You’ve got this. 💪✨
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Full Transcript:
00:00
Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast.
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I'm Monica, your mentor in uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey. Together, we'll discover the right path for you within the six essential steps to creating the family of your dreams. We'll ditch the overwhelm, tune into your intuition, and build a vibrant foundation for your fertility. Whether it's through gut health, subconscious healing, or energetic alignment, you can unlock your body's natural power to get and stay pregnant.
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Your fertility journey is all about radical responsibility and deeply believing that your body is on your side. It's time to stay consistent, embrace trust, surrender, and create the transformation you deserve. Fighting fertility does not diagnose, prescribe, or treat any fertility issues. What we do is empower you to take control of your health by uncovering the root causes holding you back. Let's do this together. Happy Fri-yay y'all! Welcome back to another episode.
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I'm your host, Monica Cox, and I am so honored you are here with me becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. This is the last Finding Fertility podcast of 2025. I have been thinking, because let me just be honest with you, I'm not a New Year knew me type of person. I lost that illusion back in my infertility victim years. I was living in Scotland.
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And I just remember maybe I was being like Debbie Downer or maybe this was an enlightened moment. I don't know. But living up there, I'm a California girl living up there and having the winters being very dark and very cold. I remember thinking, why would I start anything new right now? I can't grow my garden. I barely see the sun. I feel like I just want to hibernate and reset.
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From that point, which was over 15 years ago, I don't have this New Year, me type of vibe. I'm in hibernation mode. I don't over-celebrate the holiday season. And it's really a time for reflection, stillness, and going inwards and getting silent because you just have more time in the dark.
02:30
This is for everyone living in the Northern Hemisphere. All my Southern Hemisphere girlies, what June, July be feeling like for you. So I'm not going to start off this podcast by New Year, new me, because that's just not how I roll. But what I want to tell you guys is for the last year in a bit, after my father's death a year ago in November, I have been
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articulating and thinking about how do I not only show up in this new frequency, how do I teach it? I still feel like there's this element of having to give information on a podcast, right? I love podcasting. When I get paid to podcast, I will be in heaven.
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But here's the thing, I love podcasting. I love showing up weekly. I love doing this. I know that there are hundreds, if not thousands of women who have got pregnant naturally or through IVF by just listening to this podcast. The information that has been accumulated on this podcast is essential for many people. We are now in this phase. I keep hearing some other people talk about how we're leaving like that knowledge is power.
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kind of society. You have the knowledge. The knowledge is accessible. I have finally been able to put the science together and articulate what I intuitively knew about egg quality, cellular health, and your age relating to fertility. I'll put that down in the show notes. There's a huge article, blog, whatever you want to call it that I did, and I was able to do it.
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because of the information that I can gather that I could not gather 15 years ago. So we have the knowledge. Almost everyone around me, because what I'm able to do, my superpower, my ability, we all have one, it's innate. It's all about clearing the bullshit. So your innateness can come through, which includes fertility, but gifts beyond the five senses as well.
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pattern recognition, connecting the dots. I can connect things. I can see things that are not necessarily proven by science. have that inner knowing. What I'm seeing now is that the knowledge is there and even the women who come into my containers are still seeking the knowledge and not
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applying it to their life. They're still running the same pattern, whether that be a frequency, an emotion, or a physical action, like a habit. And they're unable to get out of that. The main part is the overwhelm of you want to fix like 20 different things, and we're not honing in on maybe a few things at one time.
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being consistent with that and getting into coherence, alignment, feeling it in your body, becoming that observer with awareness, radical responsibility, and then the accountability for yourself or having that outside accountability. Almost no one's doing that. Even I wasn't doing it for a while. So I've been getting silent.
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getting into my meditations, whether that be in the shower, while I'm driving, not turning on a podcast, not listening to music, just getting silent to have those conversations with myself. Because for me, my connection, my inner voice doesn't sound like God, like, Monica, here I am. So having that discernment to say, oh, that's just ego or that's a story I'm running or hey, that is intuitive hit, that is spirit guide, source.
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plasma because I've been reading about space plasma and it dawned on me that I can do this with my podcast. We are going to move into a 20-week phase with short episodes, tiny invitations to see yourself as the ultimate creator of your reality because that's what I'm teaching now.
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That's what I'm asking you to embody. When you come to me and you say, this is my diagnosis, this is my last frozen embryo transfer, this is my reality, and I'm here saying, is that really your reality? And if it is, do you want to stay in that reality? This isn't about learning more facts.
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You already have all the knowledge you need. I want us together to start applying that knowledge in a way that actually shifts your patterns. I have seen intuitives, reiki masters, doctors, you name it. I can see patterns so well that even the people I hire to help me, I can see their patterns.
08:12
I want to help you shift out of those narratives that are not serving you, those patterns that are keeping you stuck AF, physically, mentally, emotionally, and I want this so badly for you that I hope you want it as bad as I want it for you. Because you guys know if you've been here long enough, for me, the two pink lines is the cherry on top. I just had...
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a member of the Fertile Energetics group coaching. She's 11 weeks pregnant. She got pregnant naturally with her first child. This child is IVF due to certain medical circumstances. And I will say when my clients get pregnant, usually they stop doing the work, the work that they thought they had to do to get pregnant. But
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This client, I'm so excited for her because she knows she has seen, because she's already a mom and sometimes it's not tangible until you're a mom, that the pattern work, the creator, you're watching your stories, you're watching how you speak to yourself, you're watching your frequency, maybe resentment towards your husband or frustration towards your child. She sees that and she understands that she wants to shift it for her whole family and she knows it starts with her.
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her. If you are finding yourself thinking that's all we're going to be doing for 20 weeks, Monica, I don't have time. 20 weeks from now, I want to be 20 weeks pregnant or 10 weeks pregnant. I don't have time for this. I cannot guarantee anyone a pregnancy ever. IVF can't do it. I can't do it. No one can do it. What I can promise you is when you get into this slow
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mundane work where you are not what I lovingly like to call squirreling, right? Like you're like a squirrel and you're just being knocked onto the next thing, overdoing, over analyzing, because it makes you feel safe. I want you to notice that feeling in your body. I want you to commit to these weekly nudges. Notice what stories come up.
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When you are not being overwhelmed by a 45 minute podcast on gut health, endocrine system, subconscious beliefs, nervous system, I love all that knowledge. It totally got me the success I wanted in my fertility. We need it. But if you're still here with all the knowledge in the world and you still feel frustrated, you feel stuck, this is my invitation to you to move into that deeper work.
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that is gonna radically change your life. This is going to be extremely hard for some of you. And some of you are gonna be completely ready for it. This is going to be the break in the pattern you have been searching for. And this is where I truly hope the real shifts happen for you in 2026, so you can...
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Not only see those two pink lines, but start making your dreams, that dream family, a reality with you at the hub of it, not being a complete nervous wreck and just freaked out and stressed out and exhausted. Share this with a friend because it is not about your fertility. Yes, it's going to boost your fertility if that's why you're here.
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but it is about innateness and how we want to run a completely different way to change those patterns for our future children before they even come Earth-side. It's not about the next protocol, what some expert or guru says. It is deciding that you are going to become the conscious creator of your own experience through this chapter of your life.
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through pregnancy, through postpartum, and through motherhood and beyond. I hope you are going to stick around for the next 20 weeks and show up for yourself. I promise you this will help guide you into a whole new way of seeing and being. Have a fabulous new year, and I will see you next week for week one.
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Thank you once again for tuning in and becoming the conscious mama you were born to be. Remember, I wasn't some magical unicorn who stumbled into fertility success. I stayed consistent. I put in the work and I made it happen. And guess what? You can too. Remember, this transformation happens when you stay committed to yourself. Trust your body, follow your intuition, make it possible. The links that you need are down below.
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And if you are still here and you absolutely love this podcast, please take some time and leave me a review and help other women like you find this podcast to get the support they need.
