What I Wish I Knew About Biological Age When I Was Dealing with Infertility and IVF
When I was in the thick of infertility and IVF, I thought my biggest enemy was the calendar.
Every birthday felt like a ticking time bomb.
Every doctor’s appointment was another reminder that my age — those numbers on paper — was stacked against me.
I wish someone had told me the truth: your birthday candles don’t determine your fertility. Your biological age does.
The Lie I Believed About Age
If you’ve sat in a fertility clinic, you know the speech.
“You’re getting older. Your egg quality is declining. Time isn’t on your side.”
It’s fear disguised as science. And when you’re vulnerable, desperate, and exhausted, it sinks in deep. I believed it. I let it drive me into round after round of IVF, each time hoping the numbers would change my fate.
But numbers never gave me peace. They only gave me panic.
What Biological Age Really Means
Biological age has nothing to do with how many years you’ve lived. It’s about how your cells are functioning right now.
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Is your nervous system regulated or fried?
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Are your mitochondria (the powerhouses of your eggs and sperm) thriving or barely surviving?
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Is your gut inflamed or balanced?
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Do your hormones have the raw materials they need to communicate?
These answers say more about your fertility potential than your birthday ever will.
Cellular Health vs. Calendar Years
I spent years chasing outcomes instead of addressing the root causes:
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Sleep I wasn’t getting.
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Stress I wasn’t releasing.
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A gut and thyroid that were screaming for help.
I thought IVF could outrun all of that. But IVF can’t undo what your cells are carrying.
What can? Rest, nourishment, emotional awareness, and time for your body to remember its own power.
Why This Matters for You
If you’ve been told your only option is IVF or donor eggs, I want you to hear this: age is not the end of your story.
Your biology is adaptable. Your cells can heal. Your nervous system can come back into balance.
I’ve seen women in their 40s reverse their biological age, support their thyroid, calm autoimmune chaos, and get pregnant naturally after years of failed treatments.
No, it’s not instant. Yes, it requires patience and radical responsibility. But it is possible.
The Real Superpower: Patience + Presence
IVF taught me how much I wanted to control. But my body taught me something deeper: patience and presence are medicine too.
When I slowed down, when I listened, when I gave my body the chance to repair — that’s when fertility shifted.
Not because of a number, but because I finally stopped abandoning myself.
Your Invitation
If you’re feeling burned out by treatments, I want you to pause. Ask yourself:
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Am I judging myself by a calendar, or supporting my biology?
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Am I listening to my body, or outsourcing my power?
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Am I giving myself time, or racing against fear?
Your fertility is innate. Your body knows what to do.
And your biological age — the health of your cells — holds more possibility than the candles on your birthday cake ever could.
💚 Want to go deeper?
Here's two powerful podcast episodes with Leslie Kenny where we unpack:
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How to reverse biological age for reproductive health
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Why thyroid + autoimmune healing matter so much
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The myths about egg quality and fertility “expiration dates”
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Why patience and time can be your superpowers
Connect with Leslie Kenny:
- https://www.instagram.com/lesliesnewprime/
- https://oxfordhealthspan.com
- https://oxfordlongevityproject.org
- https://oxford-healthspan.myshopify.com/FindingFertility
- Your 15% off: FINDINGFERTILITY15
Let's Do This Together 💚
Monica
Listen up, lovelies: Everything I share about health, diet, or fertility magic is my opinion. Yep, it’s all based on years of trial and error, study, reading, listening, and side-eyeing the nonsense out there. What worked for me might be a jackpot for you—or it might be a total flop. Bodies are weird like that. 🤷♀️
Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not a doctor, nutritionist, dietitian, or any other kind of licensed health wizard. If you need medical advice, run—don’t walk—to an actual qualified professional. Don’t come back here saying Monique told you to eat kale for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, okay?
As for the products I mention, they’re either what I used during my own infertility rollercoaster or what I wish I’d known about back then. No guarantees, no promises, and absolutely no refunds on your hope budget if it doesn’t work out.
Now that we’ve cleared that up, proceed with curiosity and, above all, discernment. You’ve got this. 💪✨
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